~•**•..•* بِسْــــــــــــــــــمِ اﷲِالرَّحْمَنِ اارَّحِيم *•..•**• ~
Steps for Getting Closer to Ar- Rahman: 13. Having good manners, character and being humble ✦
Many
of us think that “a perfectMuslim” is simply one who is correct inthe
observance of the salah (ritualPrayer), the fasting, the zakah(payment
of a certain portion of one’swealth to the poor), and the
Hajj(pilgrimage to Makkah). This indeed isnot the case.
If
the ritual observances do not helpthe person to be humble, virtuous
andtruly God-fearing, then he or she is nota real Muslim. A Muslim
should begood and just in dealing with others,no matter their religion,
and takespecial care to keep away from all theshameful and sinful things
Allah (God)has forbidden.
One
can never get close to Allah bybeing arrogant, full of pride and
havinga bad character and manners. Thosewho have humility and are humble
andhave good character and manners arethe closest to Allah and Allah
raisestheir ranks in the hereafter.
The
superiority of good character:Abu Darda, may Allah be pleased withhim,
relates that the ProphetMuhammad, may the peace andblessings of Allah be
upon him, said,
“Nothing is
heavier in the scales of abeliever on the Day of Judgement thanhis good
behaviour. Allah detests aperson who is obscene andshameless”. [Tirmidhi
3/244, in Abwabal-birr, bab husn al-khalq. He said it isa hasan sahih
hadith]
Having humility and being humble:
The Prophet, may the peace andblessings of Allah be upon him, said:
"He who was humble for the sake ofGod by one degree, God
(AllaahSubhanAllaahu Wa Ta'ala) would thenelevate them to a degree till
they reachthe uppermost of high Orders, and hewho was arrogant to God
(AllaahSubhanAllaahu Wa Ta'ala), God (AllaahSubhanAllaahu Wa Ta'ala)
would thenlower him for a degree till he reachesthe lowest of low
Orders", (Narratedby: Muslim (Hadeeth: 6535).
Al-Nawawi said:
The Prophet (peace and blessings ofAllaah be upon him) said:
“And no onehumbles himself before Allaah butAllaah will raise him (in
status).” [SahihMuslim, 16/141, Kitab al-birr wa'l-silahwa'-adab, bab
istihbab al-'afu wa'l-tawadu'.]
Humbleness is to know the value ofoneself, to avoid pride, or
disregardingthe truth and underestimating people.As the Prophet
sallallahu `alaihi wasallam said, according to Muslim andothers,
"Al-Kibr is rejecting the truthand looking down uponpeople" [Muslim; See
Riyadh Saleheenof Nawawi, #612].
Humbleness
is for one who isimportant and significant and he fearsto gain
notoriety or to become toogreat among people. Humbleness isthat one
should humble himself withhis companions.
Humbleness is to humble oneself toone who is below you. If you
findsomeone who is younger than you, orof less importance than you,
youshould not despise him, because hemight have a better heart than you,
orbe less sinful, or closer to Allah thanyou. Even if you see a sinful
personand you are righteous, do not act inarrogance towards him, and
thankAllah that He saved you from thetribulation that He put him
through.
Remember
that there might be someriyaa' or vanity in your righteous deedsthat
may cause them to be of no avail,and that this sinful person may
beregretful and fearful concerning hisbad deeds, and this may be the
causeof forgiveness of his sins.
Humbleness is that your deed shouldnot become too great in your eyes.
Ifyou do a good deed, or attempt to getcloser to Allah ta`ala through an
act ofobedience, your deed may still not beaccepted,
وَاتْلُ
عَلَيْهِمْ نَبَأَ ابْنَيْ آدَمَ بِالْحَقِّ إِذْ قَرَّبَا قُرْبَاناً
فَتُقُبِّلَ مِن أَحَدِهِمَا وَلَمْ يُتَقَبَّلْ مِنَ الآخَرِ قَالَ
لَأَقْتُلَنَّكَ قَالَ إِنَّمَا يَتَقَبَّلُ اللّهُ مِنَ الْمُتَّقِينَ
''
Tell them the story of two sons of Adam (Abel and Cain) according to
the truth, when they offer sacrifices, it is received from one of them
was (Abel) and not received from the other (Cain). He said (to Cain): "I
must kill you". Abel said: "Verily Allah only accepts (the victim) from
those who fear Allah".
[Surat al-Maida: 27]
''Ceritakanlah
kepada mereka kisah kedua putera Adam (Habil dan Qabil) menurut yang
sebenarnya, ketika keduanya mempersembahkan korban, maka diterima dari
salah seorang dari mereka berdua (Habil) dan tidak diterima dari yang
lain (Qabil). Ia berkata (Qabil): “Aku pasti membunuhmu!”. Berkata
Habil: “Sesungguhnya Allah hanya menerima (korban) dari orang-orang yang
bertakwa”. [Surat al-Maida: 27]
Humbleness
is that, when you areadvised, if Shaytaan calls you to rejectthe
advice, you must negate him.Because the purpose of advice is thatyour
brother points out the defectsthat you have.
The arrogant never gives credit toanybody or mentions good
aboutsomeone, and if he needed to do so,he would also mention five
defects ofthat person.
But if
he hears somebodyreminding him about his own defects,he will not be
flexible nor comply dueto his inferiority complex. This is why itis
among man's moral integrity toaccept criticism or comment withoutany
sensitivity or discomfort or feelingsof shame and weakness. —r
~ •**•..•* وَعَلَيْكُمْا لسَّلاَمُ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ •**•..•* ~
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